The Brennan to my Angela.
The Donna to my Doctor.
The Delena to my roadtrip. 
The Caroline to my Elena.
The Amy to my Rory. 
The Harry to my Hermione.
The Elena to my Damon.
The happiness to my Damon.
The Alaric to my Damon. 
The Joey to my Pacey.
The Anna to my Jeremy.
The TenToo to my Rose.
The Monica to my Chandler.

Anonymous said:

I’ve read it already and I find interesting her point of view, even if I don’t agree with some aspects of her shipper manifesto. I won’t write about it because the theme she’s talking about (aka the type of love Delena have and Delena’s conception of love) is one of the themes I’ll write on ‘The course of true love never did run smooth’. If I write my thoughts about the theme now it’ll be pointless to write my article later. I can give you my opinion about some things the author said :) 

I believe the first part is pretty accurate and matches with my POV about Delena and their conception of love. The idea behind “when it’s real you can’t walk away” sums up Damon’s understanding of love. Elena thinks love is a choice, like everything else in life. Once Anya and I discussed about choice being the main theme of the show, there’s no such thing as inevitability from Elena’s POV and that’s the moment her feelings for Damon makes her beliefs crash and burn. That’s why she can’t define her feelings for Damon as love. She’s supposed to choose who she loves; Elena rationalizes love and that’s why she can’t see her feelings for Damon as love yet. While Damon sees love as a force you can’t stop, Elena sees love as a choice you make. Until Elena understand love is not supposed to be anything and you can’t help how you feel, she won’t ever admit her feelings for Damon. She can’t define her feelings for Damon because it doesn’t fit in the category she understands as love.

I don’t think Damon sees her kind of love (the one she feels for Stefan) as an act of cowardice like the author put, I think Damon sees her eternal denial as an act of cowardice. It’s two different things. I think Damon understand love more than the article’s writer gives him credit for. He understands Elena’s love for Stefan, he doesn’t understand why she can’t accept she feels something for him too.

I agree Damon is terrible dealing with feelings, but he’s willing to try for Elena. That’s very telling. He never needed to deal with it because Stefan was the one to be there, but when Stefan isn’t there anymore, Damon is the one to pick up the pieces. That’s when Damon and Elena’s relationship shifts and grows. Damon is the one taking care of her and, even if he needs to learn a couple of things about comfort I believe Elena appreciates his effort. He’s trying for her.

The last part I don’t agree cause it doesn’t fit my own view of Damon, but I do agree when she says the story is not about the good girl falling for the monster and then he becomes good person because of her love. It’s not. Damon won’t ‘change’ more than he already have (I don’t think he changed btw, I believe he only let his humanity come out and play), but I think Elena is slowly changing to fit into his life.

I wrote about it several months ago that the writers are clearly changing Elena (making her darker, making her do terrible decisions in name of love), so she could be the one to fit in Damon’s universe. I think the ultimate proof of what I said 4 months ago is the fact Elena will become a vampire next season. If as human she understood the reason behind Damon’s behavior, now that she’ll literally live a life of a vampire and she’ll experience all these magnified feelings and struggles, her understanding of him will shift completely. The writers are doing a 50/50 work with Damon and Elena’ characterization. I’ll finish this with something I wrote some time ago:

“While Damon became a better man for her, Elena goes dark for the people she loves. It’s good because it means they will find their balance, morally speaking. Damon isn’t all bad boy, but Elena isn’t all good girl. They’re shades of gray.”

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“If at any point in the life of this series, that could go on forever and ever, I think that if we didn’t go down that road eventually, we wouldn’t be doing our jobs right. But, I would never say when or how or to what end. I can only say that it’s a show predicated on a girl coming back to life and her development of love for one brother who then, because of who she is, changes the life of the other brother and that’s our show. There are roads we can go down with that in the future, for sure, so stay tuned.”

Julie Plec’s answer to “Will Elena and Damon ever get together?”

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findmysoulasigohome:

So I was just thinking of a quote from Titanic where Rose says

I felt like I was standing at a great precipice, with no one to pull me back, no one who cared…or even noticed.

When I was reminded of what Elena wrote in her diary while in the graveyard in the pilot

Dear Diary, I made it through the day! I must have said “I’m fine, thanks!” at least 37 times, and I didn’t mean it once. And no one noticed.

One would think that as by the end of the episode Stefan is the one to notice her but  I feel while everyone was preoccupied with themselves in 1x03, it was Damon who noticed that she was miserable and that she should quit cheerleading.

Damon: I’d quit cheerleading if I were you.

Elena: Why do you say that?

Damon: Oh, I saw you at practice. You looked miserable.

Elena: You saw that?

Damon: Uh-huh. Am I wrong?

Elena: I used to love it. It was fun. Things are different this year. Everything that used to matter doesn’t anymore.

Elena always thought it was Stefan who saw how lost she was and understood and helped her find her way back to life. Yes, Stefan cared to know about her more than anybody else but he couldn’t see through her immediately like Damon did. But this wasn’t the first time he got her.

Elena: Got into a fight with my boyfriend.

Damon: About what? May I ask.

Elena: Life, future, he’s got it all mapped out.

Damon: And you don’t want it?

Elena: I don’t know what I want.

Damon: Well, that’s not true. You want what everybody wants.

Elena: What, mysterious stranger who has all the answers?

Damon: Hm, well, let’s just say I’ve been around a long time. I’ve learned a few things.

Elena: So, Damon, tell me. What is it that I want?

Damon: You want a love that consumes you. You want passion, an adventure, and even a little danger.

People around her at that time noticed that she wasn’t in love with Matt and while she was a lot more perky then, not many people saw exactly what she wanted and neither did she. Even then when Damon knew hardly anything about her, he noticed a spark in her and saw what that she wouldn’t be satisfied with a mundane life. She wanted more then and she wants more now even if she won’t admit it to herself.

She is standing there at a great precipice but unaware of the fact that she is at risk of falling and no one but one person noticed and tried to save her and he has been saving her ever since.

Well, it makes sense Damon is the only one who can see sides of Elena no one can (remember Damon telling Stefan she had spunk?) cause the same thing applies to Elena. While Stefan preferred to believe everything Damon did was only for the sake of being evil, Elena understood all the decisions (good and bad) he made in his life was in the name of love. Damon gets Elena like no one else and Elena has a deep understanding of Damon’s feelings. This is not an one way street. They fit. 

Anonymous said:

Yo estaba pensando en esto: En el episodio 3x19 Stefan le dice a Alaric (en la celda) que si “Elena se enamora de alguien mas, ya no vale le pena luchar por su amor” *incluso cuando ella ya le habia dicho que NO lo habia dejado de amar* // En el episodio 3x22 Es el recuerdo de Elena (flasback) lo que le da a Damon la fuerza para luchar contra Alaric, *incluso despues de que Elena habia elegido a STEFAN y no a el* — Ves la diferencia? (cont)

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I think your question is interesting, so I’ll translate what you told me.

Anon asked my opinion about the scene between Damon and Alaric and Stefan and Alaric. While Damon found strength to fight for his life after he remembered his first meeting with her even if Elena chose Stefan, Stefan told Alaric that he would stop fighting cause Elena in love with someone else it didn’t matter anymore. 

I think this is one of these scenes that show us how strong Damon is and how Stefan needs to grow as character yet. Also, it show us how Damon’s perspective of love is different from Stefan’s. Stefan thinks it only matters if the feelings are reciprocated while being in love is enough to Damon. Of course, he wants Elena for himself, but just being around her even if his feelings were unrequited it was enough to him. He just want to be close to her. Stefan isn’t like that. Stefan only thinks about himself and how he feels ( the best example was when he proposed he’d get off town if Elena chose Damon, even after she said she couldn’t lose anyone else), Damon is always selfless when it’s about Elena’s happiness. I can’t believe for one second Damon would get out of town even if Elena didn’t become a vampire. It’s not Damon’s style, but it’s Stefan’s. 

So, I believe those two scenes were great way to show us how different Damon and Stefan are once more.

So, I’ve got a few messages about this quote:

Question: Now that Elena has chosen Stefan on The Vampire Diaries, should we assume Damon will be getting a new love interest next season? —Beth
Ausiello: “Never say never,” replies EP Jlie Plec. “In the first part of the season, we’re going to be very much invested in what’s going to happen to Elena and what do each of the brothers have to say about it and what are each of them going to do to try to help her through this experience and what does it do to their relationship with each other? Then once the dust settles from that, we’ll see [about a new romance for Damon].”

I don’t understand why people are freaking out over this. Let’s be realistic for a second: Elena didn’t choose Damon. The whole point of the season finale was Elena not choosing Damon because it wasn’t the right time for her. The moment she’s living now she needs what Stefan always provided her: the feeling of being safe. She already said Damon consumes her, he got under her skin and etc. These are not really comforting and safe feelings. These are intense feelings Elena isn’t ready to deal right now. So, Elena will be with Stefan figuring out how to handle being a vampire and to adapt her “new” personality in their relationship. She’ll have Stefan’s companionship, why Damon has to be alone? Why he can’t have a woman like Rose or Andie in his life while Elena is with Stefan? I don’t understand this. I think this is unfair and really immature to think it’s okay Damon being alone while Elena is with Stefan. They can’t be together right now? I’m okay with it. Does Damon need to pine over Elena alone? No, he doesn’t. He should get a girlfriend, have some fun and try to not think a lot about his broken heart. This is what I call a distraction. Damon being with someone else doesn’t mean anything. 

Damon being with another woman, even enjoying their company won’t erase his feelings for Elena or cancel everything they went through last season. Just like Elena being with Stefan won’t erase her feelings for Damon or the significance of the moments they shared (Plec already said her feelings for Damon will deepen during the season 04). 

Also, we don’t know how long Elena and Stefan will be together (could be half season or 15 episodes for all we know) and we don’t know if this love interest will play a role in the future break up of Stelena.

Things will be different now guys. It won’t be S01 and S02 all over again like people are claiming. Different of the two previous seasons, even if she doesn’t want to admit it, Elena is in love with Damon while she’s with Stefan. This will be a huge source of doubts and fights between them. Elena will be pissed if she sees Damon with another woman, even if she doesn’t have any right to be. Adding the issue of Elena being a vampire and her emotions are not in control, she’ll lose her mind every now and then with Damon. The way Elena reacts when Damon is around her will intensify. The attraction, the sexual tension and everything that makes them Damon and Elena will be too much to handle at some point. I agree with Plec when she says season 4 is starting over, because they will have to adapt Elena’s relationship to her new life/personality. Stelena and Delena will change, the question is which one will fit the best to Elena’s life as a vampire. After hearing Plec’s word about it (“I think we’ll start to get a glimpse at the different sides of Stefan in a relationship, where it’s not going to be all peaches and cream and love and unconditional, unwavering support of Elena’s decision. Elena is no longer Elena”), we can say Stelena won’t be the one that will fit.

breakfastatdolce said:

Plec never said that, she said we would see Stelena together for a while and Damon and Elena friendship and romantic entanglement would develop more as the season 4 goes on.

At the moment, I think we’ve reached a perfect place. Damon and Elena bond will deepen, even if they’re not together (Plec already confirmed this) and Elena will have another go with Stefan, something she needs go through so she can realize a) the type of love she wants is not the one Stefan is offering to her and b) Damon is the only person she feels in her ideal way aka he consumes her.  

stephanianicole said:

Exactly! But Stefan was Elena’s choice, so I thought they would do something about him too, but they didn’t. It show us that her choice wasn’t important and they’d rather focus on the “family” of this season than the future romance plotline. I know Damon plays his role in that plot, but before Elena’s romantic interest, he is Elena’s friend.

rebellious-heart said:

To be honest, the whole season finale was about Delena and not Stelena, even if Elena’s choice was Stefan.

First, Elena calls Damon to tell she would let him go. It’d make sense if she called Stefan first and told him she chose him, then she called Damon. But no. The whole “I’m picking Stefan right now” was all about Delena and not Stelena. Second, the death scene is rather telling. They only showed Damon’s reaction to the whole thing, Stefan appeared a few seconds on the screen. Every single information we got through Damon. We didn’t see Stefan rescuing her body, crying over her death, Meredith explaining to him when he brought her body to the hospital. It’d make sense if they did like that, after all Stefan was the one who “saved” Elena’s body. But no, they skipped these scenes and the whole thing was about Delena with a side of Jeremy and Alaric.

Basically the last five minutes I could only see the writers saying: Stefan? Who is Stefan and why his emotions are even relevant to us? Excuse me, this is all about Damon, Elena and her family. So, it’s possible they’ll skip this whole “I choose you, Stefan”.

Anonymous said:

I believe it’s completely realistic for only one reason: Damon was caught with his walls down and when he’s with his walls down his humanity appears. Damon didn’t change, guys. Everything he’s now, he was before. He just didn’t let his humanity come out to play; he preferred to be the ruthless killer he was. It was easier than feel. But right there? That was the Damon we love and we care and the flashback was showing us this. 

Anonymous said:

I think who can answer this best is Plec:

“We were heading toward the end of the road knowing that as a human, Stefan was Elena’s choice. We also knew what was going to happen at the end of the episode.”

I believe the answer is sort of metaphorical right here. Elena said she felt stuck in the end of 3x12. Elena wanted to say goodbye to the girl she used to be and that she was clearly holding onto, but didn’t know how. She didn’t move on or change after the goodbye scene Matt and Elena had in the bridge. Of course, the writers already knew where the season was heading to. Of course Elena as human would choose Stefan. She was still that girl. 

Now, the girl who made all these choices no longer exist. She died. Of course things will change. Elena isn’t stuck anymore, she won’t hold onto the memories or the life she had as human because she isn’t anymore. Now, she needs to figure out what she wants and needs as a vampire. A future blooms. She has a new life and new choices to make. That’s why I believe it was necessary she chose Stefan as human, because it was the place she was at that moment. But she won’t be human anymore or stay in that place any longer. She’ll move on with her life when she finally accepts and settles in her new life. 

catnelian said:

The idea of compelling is putting the idea in someone’s head and make them do it. Also, he didn’t compel her to get what she wants, he compelled her to “find what she’s looking for”. Completely different from what you just said. If she’s looking for safety, she’ll tend to look for things that make her feel safe. Stefan makes Elena feel safe, so she’ll have always the impulse to go after him thanks to the compulsion. I’m not saying this is the only reason, I’m saying the compulsion is playing a part in that too.

Look at what Damon did with Jeremy. Jeremy didn’t want to leave his sister, but Damon compelled him to leave the town and not want to come back. Elena’s situation is just the same. You should pay attention about how compulsion works in the show. Even if you forget what happened, the feeling and the idea linger in your subconscious. That’s how compulsion works and Jeremy explained that during S01.

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Anonymous said:

I think Damon will have Elena despite of her nature because he loves her for who she is. He’ll accept her the way she is, human or vampire. That doesn’t mean her rejection won’t hurt him and make things difficult between them. Even if she was human, he wouldn’t accept lightly Elena changing her mind to be with him.

The problem is never her species, but her feelings. 

Anonymous said:

That’s probably one of the best questions I got since the season finale.

I’ll answer you a big ‘NO’. 

There’s a reason we got to see the first time Damon and Elena met each other. It’s not just about a memory they brought back so Damon would remember he has a reason to fight back, it’s not to we find out there’s more about Delena relationship than we previously thought and it’s not a justification of how Damon knew Elena in the pilot. I think the truly important part of that scene is when Damon compels Elena to find what she’s looking for. This line “I want you to find what you’re looking for” is not just there as embellishment. They put it there for a reason. The scene didn’t need that line. He could have given her the advice, then took her memory away, but no. They put it there because it’d matter in the future.

After Elena lost her parents, she was seeking safety and she met Stefan. We already know Elena felt safe around him and one of the reasons was he couldn’t die. Elena told Matt that. So this dependence Elena developed for Stefan has Damon’s compulsion playing a part there too. So, she wants safety, Stefan provides that, therefore the compulsion intensify that need to be closer to Stefan because he provides the feeling Elena is looking for.

So, now that we have the compulsion lifted this dependency will reduce or even disappear because Elena’s feelings will change (she can protect herself now because she isn’t human and she’s strong enough to handle other vampires, so she doesn’t need to rely on Damon or Stefan for her safety; she’s finally becoming independent inside the supernatural world) and she isn’t under Damon’s compulsion to have this crave/impulse to find what she’s looking for (aka safety). So, the dependency problem will be gone eventually.    

Oh, I’m not saying she loves Stefan because of the compulsion, but I’m saying it’s playing a part too. If it wasn’t important to the plot, the writers wouldn’t have done it like that. They could have finished the scene with Damon erasing her memory in a normal way, but they choose to do like that. Everything has a reason :)

Hmm… Interesting. I just realized they made Elena’s death scene something between Damon, Elena, Jeremy and Alaric. We get to see Damon realizing Elena is dead, Jeremy and Alaric saying goodbye and Jeremy understanding Elena is gone, then we see the confirmation Elena is dead in the morgue with Stefan, but it’s between Damon and Meredith that we find out Elena will become a vampire. We don’t see Stefan rescuing her body, bringing her to the hospital or Meredith telling him she gave Elena vampire’s blood (that we know now because Plec said during an interview). 

They kept the scene between the “family” they created during S03. There isn’t any moment exclusively about Stefan and his reaction to Elena’s death aside the few seconds we see him crying on screen.

I find this very interesting. I’ll write more about it later.